Adichie is a feminist. Beyonce is a feminist. But they are graduates from different schools of feminism.
Beyonce’s standpoint: “What a man can do, women can: We must show men what, we women, are made of: We have strength to occur hurdles they (men) presents; If he causes you pain, make him pay”
Adichie’s view point: “We should not let our emotions revolve around men: We (women) can be majestic on themselves: We can take care of ourselves; men are just partners, not our guardian angels.”
Beyonce is advocating for feminine militancy. Is Adichie calling for truce? Adichie is informed by desire for pragmatism. Is Beyonce’s view an off shot of matrix of dominion? That female gender may be overlapped?
Beyonce, it seems, in face of hurdles at the hands of a man, will be like I-take-no-bullshit-if-you-mess-I-Kick-your-arse reaction. She, unwittingly, concedes, female gender, comes from an inferior pedestal. Adichie, on the other hand, a man is just a friend, just like her girls.
How will Adichie pragmatism reconcile the face of romantic love? Which brings irrationality to people? Romantic love is a societal creation.
If you lived where polyandry has roots, you will not feel queasy with your wife getting a mate. But if you lived in a society where such is abominable, spasms of jealousy will bite if she strays. Romantic Love, is but a societal construct and an arsenal for control and dominance.
It is true female sex has faced more hurdles from dogmas of our patriarchal society which are fueled by Judeo-Abrahamic religions. In our recent history, women have found themselves deprived control of their sexuality, they could not vote, they could not own property, they were assets of men, they faced the horror of genital mutilations, so on.
Then, there came strong women who called for what is fair. But then, there are johnny-came lately activists theorized, falsely, the woes facing the women in the society could be dissipated by taming the run away patriarchy.
Patriarchy a problem? Is it patriarchy which makes our daughters think they can not tender themselves, and in sponsor mentality, hawk themselves to moneyed men?
Is it patriarchy, which makes our daughters, instead of craving to build their own empires, crave to get “wealthy and to do” men to take them as wives for better lives? This is the worst form of mental servitude, ingrained in our daughters, which Adiche and Beyonce must tackle.
Woman from Utopial
A woman visiting from utopia. She is not socially engineered or cocooned into constrictions of ‘place of a woman’. She is in her true element. How would she behave? Most probably, she will be driven by instinct. She will establish her empire. She will look for a male capable of giving her off spring with traits she desires; when she is ready. That how she would be. She will be liberated.
Adichie and Beyonce schools of feminism, both mean well. They teach women, their happiness should not be derivative from men. They teach women, they are not objects to be taken care off.
They teach them to find their value. They teach them to take their mates, mates of their desire, either male or fellow female, as their partners, and in case of male mates, not to be subservient to them.
Adiche and Beyonce have a long way to go. For patriarchy dominates matriarchy, because female-folk, perhaps, and it could be due bad social engineering, accepted to remain in servitude. Female liberation is a good thing. Feminism is not necessarily a good thing. For feminism does not guarantee female liberation.